Brenda Appleton: I am at the best time of my life. I am retired, been with my partner for 45 years, we both enjoy good health and fitness, our finances are under control and I am doing things which I enjoy. I reflect on what has been achieved in the last 5 years and how many people are now exploring what gender means for them. I like to use my lived experience to make it easier for those following. I preserved granny smith apples and blueberries – not to fit into the binary but to celebrate variety and diversity. We have had a lovely season for blueberries and I wanted to see how they are preserved and to add colour to the apples.